Being a bachelorette for the longest time has proven to be a life changing experience for me. It has provided me useful insight into the worldly intricacies that I never realized while I was in committed relationships. Here are the things that I realized while being single:
BEING INDEPENDENT FEELS GREAT
There’s a certain sense of gratification that’s indescribable when you realize that you are not reliant on anyone but yourself for all the success that you have achieved. Sure, you had your friends and family all along to support you, but whether it’s the bills or that dream apartment you bought last year, that kind of independence feels incredible.
RELATIONSHIPS ARE OVEREXAGGERATED
As humans, we desire romantic relationships and it’s completely justified. However, a relationship should certainly not be glorified as the end goal of your life. A partnership should become a part of your universe, NOT YOUR ENTIRE UNIVERSE.
YOU CAN LIVE A FULFILLED LIFE WITHOUT LOVE
A healthy and prosperous relationship can add to the pleasures of your life, but you and only YOU are responsible for your own happiness. Whether it’s your career or your extracurriculars its important to work on yourself first to allow the right person to come along and make you complete.
YOU CAN DO IT ALL BY YOURSELF
Whether its flowers, a self-care date night or romantic pleasures, you are certainly capable of providing it yourself, by yourself.
OCCASIONAL SEX SOUNDS GREAT
While a romantic relationship promises pleasure and satisfaction on a daily basis, if you are the type of person who just likes to indulge occasionally, then say ahoy to the single life.
BUT IT’S NICE TO HAVE SOMEONE TO CUDDLE WITH
Like I said we are human, and at the end of the day, we desire physical touch. Coming home after a long and rough day only to find your significant other welcoming you with a warm embrace is sheer bliss. I find it useful to get a pet.
YOU ARE YOUR ONLY CONCERN
Whether it’s moving to a different state, switching jobs or starting a dream venture, you call the shots! You don’t have to mindlessly consult anyone or wait for that stamp of approval, and I think that’s great.
DATING IS EXHAUSTING AND TIME-CONSUMING
It’s a bitter reality (sigh). You give your best in a relationship only to find no end results. That coupled with the emotional and physical investment you made and the gruesome baggage. That’s hard to let go of, and it was all just a waste of your precious time.
IT’S NOT LIKE THE MOVIES
Seriously! These romantic comedies and Disney movies have generated a wrong portrayal of love. In real life, love requires sacrifices and compromises that are honestly not ROMANTIC. You better be ready to move out of your comfort zone and make hard decisions to make a relationship last.
YOU WILL BE OKAY IN THE END
At the end of the day, it’s comforting to know that even if the right person doesn’t stumble upon you any time soon, you will be okay because you are content and satisfied with yourself.
LESS DRAMA-LESS TEARS
You can be thankful to yourself for not allowing anyone to destroy your peace of mind. Now I’m not saying all relationships suck, but we’ve definitely all heard the horror stories, or have lived through ourselves what committed relationships can be like. When you are single you realize that you are beyond thankful that you have been smart enough to stay away from anything holding you back.