Dating can be complicated but it doesn’t have to be. Putting yourself out there to meet new people leaves you with a lot of options. But sometimes people are not who they pretend to be. That’s why paying close attention to red flags is very important.
As humans who by nature want to be partnered up sometimes our loneliness gets the best of us. Despite seeing the signs in front of us we will ignore them to keep moving forward with someone who will prove to be the wrong one.
It is so easy to get caught up in being swept off your feet during the honeymoon stage. But it is also so important to be taking careful inventory of any possible red flags waving themselves in our face.
Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Red Flags
People are usually good at lying about who they are. Especially when they don’t have the best intentions in their hearts. That’s why when you see these moments that are warnings you need to take heed. That is who they are underneath it all. It’s an act. And an act can’t go on forever. The sooner you figure out someone isn’t who they say they are the better.
Dating isn’t all bad. There are lots of great relationships out there. To find the right one for you, you need to be able to weed out the wrong ones FAST. Don’t wast too much time kissing toads that will never become a prince. I’m gonna let you know of the red flags in a guy you shouldn’t ignore because it could leave you heartbroken and waste your time.
He Swears His Exes Are All Crazy
When someone says all their exes are crazy one of two things goes through my head. He’s either drawn to the drama or creating it. There’s no other logical explanation. For some reason, not even one of his exes is a more rational person. Whenever he talks about them, they either are crazy, psycho, or manipulative. This makes you feel bad for him. It gives you the urge to want to comfort it. He never takes any responsibility when he tells tales of his relationship and that should be a big warning sign to you.
He Has Never Been Single
Jumping from one relationship to the next is scary. It’s not cute or admirable. This isn’t something you want in a guy. Most people who do this are scared of being alone. Their whole personality is created around their partner. They don’t know who they truly are and have never taken enough time to do the work to figure it out. It usually means they will be super clingy and expect you to make them your whole world.
He Is Rude And Disrespectful
Being rude and disrespectful is a red flag you shouldn’t ignore. If you go out for dinner, and he’s constantly rude to the waiters, the valet, the cab driver, you need to pay attention. How you treat people is a huge sign of our character. He has the motivation to be on his best behavior with you at that moment. But without a reason, he is treating everyone else horribly and that can be where you end up quick. That’s not a love story. This isn’t something you want for yourself. Reconsider before going out with them again.
He Is Demanding and Doesn’t Take No For A Answer
You may not notice this on the first date, but eventually, you will. Dating a guy who lets you do all the work is a huge red flag. I’m not just talking about supporting financially. It could be emotionally, physically, and sexually too. He will expect you to compromise and make things better for him without ever being willing to do the same. He also doesn’t take no for an answer and never considers your feelings. Investing in a relationship applies to both parties, and if he’s just going to let you do all the work, you’re better off without him.
He Doesn’t Listen To You
When you have someone as a partner they need to be engaged and invested in your life. If you are talking they need to be all ears not scrolling through their social media and grunting replies. It’s a huge sign of disrespect no matter who it’s coming from. It a slap in the face and a huge sign they do not respect you.
No one wants to have their hearts broken. But sometimes we allow it to happen by ignoring the very obvious signs. Don’t let yourself turn a blind eye to these warning signs and save yourself the trouble and heartache that will come with pursuing someone with these traits.