It’s taken me a long time to get to the stage where I can honestly say ‘Zero f*cks given’ and I do feel better for it.
I no longer care what people think about the decisions I make in my life, it is after all my life, and since caring less I have found myself to be happier, lighter, freer and that is how it should be.
As long as what I do doesn’t hurt anyone my conscience is clear.
We tend to have this desire to be liked by people and in doing so we often forgo our own wants and needs just to keep everyone happy, in doing this we make ourselves miserable.
To be honest people begin to stop noticing what we do for them as it becomes expected of us, it becomes the norm and it isn’t until we reach the point of enough is enough and we stop that they notice the difference and then they lay claims that we have let them down and often the bad mouthing of us begins.
Doing nice things for people is in our human nature, but there does come a time when you have to draw the line and set boundaries and it is these boundaries that quite frankly piss them off.
Once you have boundaries in place you will see a huge difference in people and their behavior, forget them. As long as you are doing the right thing for yourself, seriously do you even care what people think?
Are we really a generation of people who are afraid of what others think or has it just been programmed into us through generations?
There are and will always be people that find fault in other peoples lives, often these people are unhappy in their own lives, so you’d think they would be happy for others seeing them succeed, but oh no its jealousy and envious behavior that comes out and they try and inflict the hurt they feel onto others. It’s projection of their own pain.
There will always be people who get angry with you, they will get offended by your life decisions and feel they have every right to comment and interfere the truth is they have no right whatsoever and can only do this if you give them the power to do so.
Do yourself a huge favor and remove these types of people from your life, the air you breathe will be much fresher once they are gone, there is no room for toxicity in your life.
As you change and adapt to the way you want to live there will always be the naysayers; the ones who think you should stay stuck where you were ‘as that’s how it’s always been done.’ They may even resort to lying about you and causing drama. They are unhealthy and definitely unhealthy for you.
Your inner circle will over time become smaller, there is nothing wrong with that, it just means the people you choose to keep close are the ones cheering you on and wanting you to follow your dreams and succeed.
These people will be the ones that will be honest with you and about you, will support you when and if you ask for it and not put you down and resort to mind games, they will have the same outlook on life and be of the same moral standing.
Suddenly all the noise in your life disappears as often those against you are loudest and most disruptive, you will find life becomes more peaceful life, you are happier in yourself and that can only be a good thing.
So, stop caring what other people think about you, and just do you!