Self-love is the single, most important relationship you will ever have. The one you have with yourself. All other relationships you have are being built upon that base. Learning to love yourself does not only benefit you. Because it is the prerequisite to truly loving others. Learning to love another truly starts when you learn to love yourself. When you hear the saying all you need is love. You can know it is the truth. However most look outwards for the love to complete them. When truly it begins from within.
Self-love is not vanity or inflated self-importance. It isn’t an ego issue or anything to be ashamed of at all. Self–love means having a high regard for your well-being and happiness. Self–love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self–love means not settling for less than you deserve. When you truly love yourself your growth is unstoppable. You will know how to take what is yours and own any room. Your relationship with your self is the most defining factor in shaping the kind of life you live.
Do you give yourself the love and respect that you might give your closest friends or significant other?
Do you take care of your body, your mind, and your needs?
Here are all the ways that you could be showing your body and mind self-love in your everyday life:
- Sleeping properly
- Eating healthy
- Giving yourself time and space to understand your spirituality
- Exercising regularly
- Thanking yourself and those around you
- Playing when you need it
- Avoiding vices and toxic influences
- Reflecting and meditating
Self-love is to be willing to receive as much as you are willing to give and do both equally. It is about knowing your values and your boundaries and honoring them. It is about teaching others how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself. It is about being kind to yourself. It is about looking after your mind, your body, and your spirit; all three. It is about knowing you are worth it, not because of what you have achieved or what you look like or what others think of you, but because the love has been started within yourself.
It is an obvious statement that you cannot give something that you do not possess, yet so many people desperately love others without having or giving love to themselves. Just like saying you can not pour from an empty cup. How does one truly love another without pouring that same emotion inside themselves? It is little wonder that in time their reserves of love are exhausted and their relationships falter. To give love, you must first have a love for yourself. Only then will you be able to truly love others for the pure joy of loving them. Give the love you wish to experience to yourself and you will find all your relationships transforming in miraculous ways.
Only since learning how to love myself have been truly happy. I have stopped tearing myself down in my mind. Stopped apologizing for the things I have presumed to be my character flaws instead of realizing they define me as unique and wonderful. We are all valuable within our rights. Being one of a kind is what makes us so interesting.
Loving yourself is a win-win for all. It provides you with inner happiness, confidence, and peace of mind that is not easily swayed by outside events and opinions. It enables you to make healthier choices and the best decisions across all areas of your life from your intimate relationships to your finances. It allows you to truly rejoice in other people’s good fortune rather than wondering “why, not me” or even resenting it. It enables you to be more genuinely loving towards others and to be of greater service to the world at large. Ultimately, the more you love yourself, the more everything and everyone you encounter benefits. Your relationships and your life are only as strong as the foundation of your self-love.